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Step Into Your Optimal Anxiety Zone

By Eleni Kelakos

Step Into Your Optimal Anxiety Zone

Harness Pre-Show Nerves to Perform Your Best | Optimal Anxiety in Public Speaking

“I get anxious before I present. Is that normal?”

As a public speaking coach, I hear this question all the time. My answer is always the same: pre-show anxiety is not only normal—it can actually be a good thing.

Anxiety is a natural response to challenges like stepping in front of an audience to deliver a pitch or presentation. It’s your body’s way of preparing you for action. But the key is balance: too much anxiety can spiral into fear and prevent you from performing at your peak, while too little anxiety can make you complacent, underprepared, and low-energy.

Psychologists and mindfulness experts refer to this sweet spot as “Optimal Anxiety.”


What Is Optimal Anxiety?

Optimal Anxiety is the middle ground between being too comfortable and feeling completely overwhelmed. Think of it as a “zone”—that feeling when you’re fully engaged, focused, and ready to perform at your best.

In this zone:

  • Your focus is heightened.
  • You can concentrate fully on the task at hand.
  • Anxiety motivates you to take action without paralyzing you.
  • Memory and recall improve, helping you present more confidently.

As meditation expert Tamara Levitt explains, “To perform at our best in life, we actually need a degree of anxiety to develop and grow.”


Finding Your Optimal Anxiety Zone

Everyone’s optimal anxiety level is different. Some people thrive on last-minute pressure, while others need weeks to prepare. Only you can determine your personal Optimal Anxiety Zone and the strategies that help you stay in it.

Think of it like Goldilocks: not too much, not too little—just right. Once you understand your ideal level of anxiety, you can use it as a tool to stay motivated, energized, and fully present.


Using Anxiety to Take Smart Risks

Optimal Anxiety isn’t about eliminating nerves—it’s about leveraging them to grow.

Taking on challenges just outside your comfort zone, like saying “yes” to speaking opportunities or job interviews, allows you to practice managing anxiety while building confidence. Start small: a 5-minute presentation at a local networking event is an ideal “next level” step before tackling a keynote in front of hundreds.

With each manageable risk, you’ll expand your zone, improve your skills, and become more resilient in the face of fear.


Managing Anxiety for Peak Performance

The most important rule: don’t ignore anxiety—face it. Naming your feelings (“That’s my pre-show anxiety showing up”) helps you acknowledge and normalize them.

Mindfulness breathing techniques are also highly effective. Try this:

  1. Inhale for 5 counts.
  2. Hold for 7 counts.
  3. Exhale for 8 counts.
  4. Repeat ten times to calm your mind and body.

For more strategies on managing pre-show anxiety and stepping confidently into your Optimal Anxiety Zone, check out my book, Charismatic Presence: Five Principles For Magnetic Presentations. And if you want personalized coaching to master your nerves, we can find time to chat.

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Meet Eleni!

Eleni Kelakos is a keynote speaker, coach, and presence and presentation expert. She helps leaders, speakers, and professionals show up with clarity and confidence.

She’s coached hundreds of individuals, from C-suite executives to entrepreneurs, and spoken to organizations and associations across the country. With a background as a professional actress and touring singer-songwriter, Eleni brings a deep understanding of what it means to be seen, heard, and fully present when it matters most.

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